Saturday, 1 May 2010

The Way of the Wolves.

Why did I not try to change the behaviour of The Doc? Let me first tell you a little tale. A student went to the master to for his help in how to deal with bad mannered insulting people. He said he was at his wits end with their behaviour. He said he was having a really difficult time controlling his anger. He saw people criticising others totally unaware of their own faults. “It is just the way they are,” he said. “I do not want to be like them but it just upsets me so much.”

The master thought for a moment. He then asked the student if he was not the one who had a close escape from wolves. The student agreed that he was indeed. “Tell me about,” said the master. So the student told the master how he had to climb a tree to escape a pack of wolves and how he had to wait and then slowly move from tree to tree. It had taken him almost two days to get home to safety.

The master then asked him, “Were you not angry at the wolves?” He then asked him, “Were you not offended at the wolves?”

“Offended, why would I be offended?” “Were you not insulted by them?”

“Why would I be that?”

“Well they wanted to eat you and bite you.”

“But that is what wolves do, they are just being themselves”

When wolves chase or attack the wise thing is to make as much distance as you can between you and them. Same with people who are offensive and angry make some distance between yourselves and them. They are just being themselves.

The Doc was happy being what he was and he was doing no harm to anybody, except himself. There was no point getting upset with him or angry. There are times when we have to learn to just leave well alone and the Doc he was one such case.

It is not easy but sometimes love is not easy. This is the way of the Tao.

This blog is linked to my other where I talk about the artwork used:-  Autumnal Hedgerow


  1. Have to agree with you on this one, Ralph.

  2. I've advised members of my family to associate only with people who "make you feel good and to walk away from those who leave you with a bad feeling. If you can't wake up in the morning with memories of a friend, companion or mate who can make you smile; then you have chosen the wrong company."
    I've learned that often misery enjoys misery. Life is too short to be miserable.
    Thanks for helping me remember.

  3. terrific story, Ralph and Ruby great advice!!!

  4. Greetings Ralph,
    Until now I've been following you from a distance. I too enjoy your take on life and it's vagaries.

    i was re-reading this post. I have gone back through some of them searching for some peace and quiet as I interact with a young man who continues to face demons of varying degrees.

    Walking miles in others' shoes hurt the feet but expose us to new and interesting landscapes.