Friday, 6 August 2010

Dance Like There is No Tomorrow.

I was thinking about the number of people I know who are busy in the queue waiting. No they are not waiting for a train or a bus they are waiting for things to change. if we are all honest we have all stood in that self same queue at one time or another.

We convince ourselves that life will be better after we have left school and university, or it will be better once we get married, have a baby, then another. Then we're frustrated that the children are not old enough and we'll be more content when they are. Later, we're frustrated that we have teenagers to deal with. We'll certainly be happy when they're out of that stage.

We tell ourselves that our life will be complete when our spouse gets his or her act together, when we get a nicer car, or we get into the house we have dreamed about, are able to go on a nice vacation, when we retire.

The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now. If not now, when? Too late to be happy yesterday and tomorrow well not a lot we can do about that until it comes.

Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.

One of my favourite quotes comes from Alfred D. Souza. He said, "For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin - real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, or a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."

This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. So, treasure every moment that you have and treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, and they were prepared to share it with you, special enough to spend your time with...and remember that time waits for no one.

So, stop waiting until you finish school, until you go to university, until you lose ten pounds, until you gain ten pounds, until you have kids, until your kids leave the house, until you start work, until you retire, until you get married, until you get divorced, until Friday night, until Sunday morning, until you get a new car or home, until your car or home is paid off, until spring, until summer, until autumn, until winter, until the first or fifteenth, until YOUR song comes on, until you've had a drink, until you've sobered up, until you die, until you're born again, until whatever excuse you can think of to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.

How many times as an artist I have waited till I got the correct colour the correct canvas. The number of times I have waited for the right moment or the right feeling. As I have said so many times on this blog the time for waiting is over.

Happiness is a journey, not a destination.

Oh and just to get you started the lady waiting for the bus. Let me tell you about her. She was wanting to go to visit a special art gallery. She asked a policeman how to get there. he told her to wait at the bus stop and catch the 46. Two hours later he passed again she was still there. He asked her why she was not at her gallery. She told him not to worry she would get there soon the 42nd bus had just passed so only four to go.

Happiness is a journey not a destination or waiting for it to arrive.

This is the way of the Tao.

This blog is linked to my Other.  Home From The Sea


  1. Wise words again, Ralph. And oh so true.

  2. That's exactly what I've finally realized this summer! This one moment right now is all I have... so I'm going to enjoy it!

  3. My husband keeps saying, "You only have one life, why would you want to spend it being miserable? Do what you're passionate about and be happy."

    Being happy makes me function better. I like that.

    Nice post and congrats on new followers! I know that makes you happy...

  4. Hi Ralph,

    A Freudian slip, I guess, in the third to last paragraph: "... he told her to wait at the bust stop and catch the 46 .."!

    Anyway, nothing endures for ever; everything is in a constant state of change and decay from the moment of creation. I'm not the person I was when I started composing this response. Nor sdhall I be tomorrow. I shall continue to change, dissolve, perish.

    Life and love have been my constant companions and remain precious, fragile, finite. I'm grateful for existance, family, friends, laughter, reading, music, the sun, the rain, nursing and feeding my grandchildren.

    Joy with your dreams, whether literary, of the heart, of the mind, of the future.

    Good things,

    Ronnie Kerrigan

  5. NO Ronnie you missed the funny there she was not looking at the number on the bus t but the nuber that had passed the 46 had probably passed at least three times

  6. Good Morning Ralph, I slept great last night and today will be wonderful! My favorite play s, "Waiting for Godot" and you have given it a wonderful analysis! We are all waiting, there is no getting around that, it is what we do while waiting that becomes important. I have always believed in dancing and singing and laughter, but I pay the rent first!

  7. I love this post, Ralph. I'm moving past that, "No, we can't have anyone over. The house is a mess. No, I can't go. I'm a mess - on and on..." You're absolutely right. This is it - life. Thank you for posting such interesting thoughts and such beautiful art.

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  9. Wonderful post Ralph! And such a timely message. :-)) Truly, I needed to hear this. Thank you.