Lets Not Dwell In The Past.

Some people have an amazingly long memory they manage to remember something that you did to them more than 40 years ago, at least that is how it seems. I was in a shop in the village where I had lived and went to school as a child. In the shop was a lady who said she thought she might recognise me. On enquiring about her and telling her who I was she decided that she did not in fact know me. It was with some apprehension that I asked her if she was looking for the person she thought I was. “Oh no, not at all,” she said, “He was the boy who pulled my hair one day and made me cry. If you had been him I was going to tell you how sore that was.”

I was indeed aware of how sore it had been. It had been so painful she had carried it with her like a burden for over 40 years. That really was something to carry for so long.

L left the shop wondering if I had been that lad what she might have said or done to me. I was also very aware that it is a simple thing to do, to hold on to the past. To allow the things that happened to you to haunt you down the years and effect the present day decisions we make.

When I was young my mother had a real love for, “Salad Cream”. This was a brand name for a form of salad dressing. Every time she produced it at the table my father made a comment along the lines of, “Ah we are having furniture polish are we?”

I suppose he did not like it and so he made fun of it. The downside of his comedy was that I took a dislike of dressings of all kinds. I have never till this day managed to overcome this dislike. I insist on all my food being served natural and without dressings. I have tried to overcome this but with very little if any success.

I have though learned many a lesson from coming to terms with this. I strive never to dwell in the past though as we move forward in age it seems more and more difficult not to do just that.

Here are one or two thoughts I have to share with you about that.

1. It is very easy to become a hostage to the past and so never see anything of value in the present.

2. The past is a foreign country and they do things differently there.

3. There is nothing surer than the fact that the job will not get done by going backwards.

4. Whatever life has in store for you it is not in the past.



I often say to my friends if you are not living on the edge you are taking up somebody else’s space. Yesterday I thought of another that I have been mulling over. I may have heard it somewhere before but I do not think so.

I am going to strive today not to live in the PAST lane.



When I put on blogger today I was given a message that it was to be down for repair and upgrade. I wonder if that was why it looks as though nobody read my blog yesterday. And I wonder should I try to post this one today. For that reason I have left it so short.

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