Monday, 26 July 2010

What Kind of Person Am I

I am always overwhelmed when somebody takes the time to comment on my words. When somebody takes the time to email and say that my words had been useful and then said why I am at a loss.

This happened yesterday on a day when few people commented on this blog. Maybe I should listen to that friend who keeps telling me to stop looking at the number of comments. Never mind the quantity feel the quality.

Forgive me for dwelling just a little bit more. Yes it was difficult being told I might never speak again especially when my job depended on my voice and I had no other talents. But it is a case of the carrots the eggs or the coffee beans. Let me explain.

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. First she fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. Then she pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Lastly she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me, what you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied. Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity ... boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavour. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Oh dear hope that is not too heavy.

This blog is linked to my other. The Dam


  1. I would like to think I'm the coffee bean but finding it hard at the moment to be anything more than the egg. Maybe given time things will revert back. I think my blog says it all today. I have to find the strength to support more than one person but I know I can do it.

  2. Methinks I have a touch of the carrot. Time to change that!

  3. I will strive to be green tea in that water. For several reasons:
    1. I like to be original, so when offered three choices, I'll invent a fourth.
    2. Green tea brings a healthier change to the water than coffee, with longer lasting benefits. Coffee is a quick fix, but green tea takes longer and is more subtle in it's work.

  4. Now why am I not at all surprised by that Katherine that just fits you to a T. LOL

  5. And that does not surprise me either Susan you two are indeed a pair of very exceptional people

  6. Maybe I'm more like the pot holder. Always trying to pull everyone off the fire!

  7. Well I have no idea! I'd like to think the coffee. Lovely post.

  8. I love this post. I'd like to think I would be the coffee if tragedy hit. I'm going to copy this and post it where I can be reminded of this often.

  9. Good Morning, Ralph, again I am late today! I am sure I have a little carrot in me and hope I have a little egg, but mostly I am the coffee, or at least making leamonade from squished lemons!

  10. Well Ralph, I am definitely the egg.