Thursday, 17 February 2011

We Are All In Our Own Way Roses.

My thoughts are turning to gardens today. Last night I attended the annual meeting of the Allotment Society, the meeting of those of us who have garden plots in the same place.  I officially took ownership of my newer and larger plot. The plot, I am taking over, has been tended by an old man called Sandy. He has had it for the last 30 years, so there is a sense of nostalgia at his moving on.

So often, when we take over from another, we go in like the new broom and change everything. This was in fact my initial reaction. Sandy grew along the top of the plot a row of flowers. They were not the most beautiful of blooms and they were taking up enough space to grow a row of edible vegetables. Last night as I lay in bed I decided that the row of flowers would stay and I would tend them. When they bloom I will take a bunch of them to Sandy and his wife. Maybe even more than one bunch, a bunch during the flowering season, every week if I can.

While thinking of flowers I thought of the story of the man who was growing a rose.

A certain man planted a rose and watered it faithfully and before it blossomed, he examined it.
He saw the bud that would soon blossom, but noticed thorns upon the stem and he thought, "How can any beautiful flower come from a plant burdened with so many sharp thorns? Saddened by this thought, he neglected to water the rose, and just before it was ready to bloom... it died.
So it is with many people. Within the inner being of every person there is a rose. The good qualities planted and nurtured in us by parents and teachers. They grow amid the thorns of our faults. Many of us look at ourselves and see only the thorns, the defects.
We despair, thinking that nothing good can possibly come from us. We neglect to water the good within us, and eventually it dies. We never realize our potential.
Some people do not see the rose within themselves; someone else must show it to them. One of the greatest gifts a person can possess is to be able to reach past the thorns of another, and find the rose within them.
This is one of the characteristics of love, to look at a person, know their true faults and accepting that person into your life, all the while recognizing the nobility of the inner them.
We each can help others to realize they can overcome their faults. If we show them the "rose" within themselves, they will conquer their thorns. Only then will they blossom many times over.
But one little thing we must always remember, that we cannot nurture a person by only looking at the rose within for a person to really grow they need to also acknowledge the thorns that have also taken root in their lives.
My goodness here I am again almost at the preaching. Thank you Celeste for the words of encouragement on that front.
This blog is linked to my other.  Cornflowers


  1. Love your plans for your new plot, Ralph. I know Sandy and his wife will appreciate the love with which you continued his dream. Too, I am so grateful that my husband always manages to see the rose within me, despite the overgrowth of thorny brambles.

  2. Sometimes the wild rose has thorns that no one tends to and so they stay that way until someone comes and gives them care and love.
    I have found that people are like that also..

  3. You touch upon such nice thoughts and such nice ways for others to look at things. Finding the preacher in yourself is not a bad thing. Actually I suspect when you were one, your purpose was very clear...

    I like your plan to bring flowers to Sandy and his wife. You will bring ample joy to their hearts.

  4. wow, Ralph..such a wonderful idea to tend those flowers. Edible vegies are great but we all need a little flower in our lives!